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5 Survival Tips For Living With Noisy Neighbours

If you have followed me on Twitter for the last couple of years, then you may have read tweets about my noisy neighbours. I was told that the area I lived in was lovely and quiet and, for the most part, it was. Except for the two sets of neighbours downstairs.

The people down below me were alcoholics and their neighbours were drug addicts.

You can imagine some of the fun I had with them. From loud music until midnight to windows being smashed and constant daily yelling matches. My mental health really took a massive down turn especially when lockdown started. Not being able to escape the noise was a nightmare!!

That’s why I needed to find ways to stay sane.

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Purchase noise-cancelling headphones

This might seem a tad over the top but I literally would have snapped if I didn’t have my headphones/ear protectors. Whenever the yelling started or went on for too long, I just grabbed these and distracted myself. I popped on my ‘Music That Makes Me Feel Better’ playlist on Spotify and prayed that they would eventually stop.

I’ll be honest and say that these didn’t always work.

Sometimes I just didn’t want to put them on and ended up in tears. Why did I have to put up with 6 hours of music blaring through my floor?

Knowing I wouldn’t be escaping them for a long time, I bought myself some BEATS Studio 3 Noise-Cancelling Earphones. These were pretty expensive but I needed them to work!

Keep a diary

This was a tip given to me by my local council.

If I was to have any chance of complaining about my noisy neighbours in future, I had to keep evidence of what they did and when they did it. The things they told me to jot down were:

  • How loud is the noise? Is it annoying?
  • When does the noise occur? Is it early morning or late at night?
  • How long does the noise occur?
  • How often does it happen?
  • Would an average person find the noise disruptive? Do you have a sensitivity to noise?

It was irritating that I had to jot down these since it happened so often but I needed proof. The most annoying thing was that you could only just hear it on recordings I took. You had to be there to hear how loud they were being.

Talk to your neighbours

The first thing your local council will probably get you to do is chat to your neighbours first.

As someone who hates any kind of confrontation, this was extremely difficult. I didn’t want to be the one causing a problem to them. It sounds dumb but that’s just me. If your noisy neighbours are generally okay to chat to, then just chat with them about it. You’d be surprised how many people don’t even realise that their music/TV is that loud, especially if they have hearing problems.

Only do this if it’s safe to do though.

There was no chance in hell of talking to the addicts. They were too violitile and honestly terrified me! A lot of the people on my street are elderly and were too scared to report in fear of retaliation.

Related post: 5 Frustrating Habits I’ve Developed While In Lockdown

Call the police

I lost count the amount of times I secretly called the police on the addicts. You know when you see clips of people crouched in a ball and whispering into their phone in case they were heard? That was me at least 5 times this year. You literally can hear everything through my walls and floors. Since I knew the people below me chatted with the people next door, I was scared that they would tell them who called.

Thankfully the 101/999 call handlers were really understanding.

Never be scared to call the police if you feel like a situation is getting out-of-hand and/or dangerous. When I heard full-on yelling outside, I didn’t immediately react because it wasn’t new to me. However I did get scared when they started banging on windows, doors and then smashing the window.

I found out recently that these calls helped in getting them evicted.

Talk to someone

Everyone in lockdown has felt trapped in their own homes.

It doesn’t matter if you live alone or with family, you’re still dealing with the same problem. As much as we’d love empathy to be real, people don’t always know what you’re feeling unless you tell them. If you’re living alone, chat to friends or family you feel close to about the situation. They might not have experience of what you’re going through but they might be able to give advice you didn’t think about.

What advice would you give for surviving noisy neighbours?

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How Therapy Sessions Have Helped My Mental Health

TRIGGER WARNING: This therapy post will touch upon issues of depression, anxiety and eating disorders.

As of last week I finished my therapy sessions with my clinical psychologist. She was still in training and coming to the end of her placement so couldn’t continue. She told me that she was sending me a summary of everything we’d been up to over the last few months at the end. I thought this would be a great opportunity to look back on my little therapy journey and chat about the different techniques we tried.

Some of this was both super interesting and very difficult.

Taking part in these kinds of situations and bringing up your past can be almost impossible to do. I’ll admit that I had a handful of weeks where I just couldn’t talk…at all. The thought of communicating hurt. That said, I don’t regret doing it at all and have taken steps on what to do next.

Hopefully this post will help you decide on whether therapy is the right choice for you or not.

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According to my summary, we used the early sessions to try and make sense of how my ‘current difficulties’ might link back to the experiences I went through as a kid. It was incredible to see just how much I’d been affected by my childhood. We chatted about my severe bullying, the sexual harrassment I went through aged 11. That and losing my dad at 14.

It might not sound a lot but each of these experiences shattered me over and over again.

I told my therapist that they had left me feeling like I was different, worthless and unlovable. It’s probably why I really struggle connecting with or trusting other people. I’ve been trying to keep myself safe over the years by hiding myself away from others and wearing baggy clothes. I never realised how much of a bully I’d become to myself. Taking over from the school bullies and making my own life a misery.

As messed up as it sounds, these were my ways of coping. Obviously they had serious consequences: social isolation, depression, anxiety and an eating disorder.

Therapy taught me some really interesting theories regarding these issues such as the Set Point Theory. According to that, our bodies are controlled by genetics. Our parents gave us our looks, metabolism and apparently the possibility of weight gain/loss. My family weren’t necessarily the skinniest of people so it isn’t that surprising that I’m also plus-size.

Doesn’t mean I have to like though!!

We did a confidental questionnaire with questions we’d created and sent out to both her colleagues and some of my friends. I didn’t know who answered what but it shocked me that so many people had the same thought process as me. Knowing that I wasn’t alone did make me feel less weird. I was even concerned about a couple of people!

Other methods that we did to help were:

  • Doing a form of aversion therapy (looking at myself into a mirror, using Instagram filters and keeping a selfie on my phone).
  • Keeping a food diary
  • Reading documents in between sessions

To be honest I think this therapy only scratched the surface of what’s going on inside my head. It’s going to take me at least a decade of help. I’m currently on a waiting list for an Occupational Therapist to help me with my social issues and another list with an eating disorder clinic as an outpatient.

This pandemic has left me on the very edge but I’m still fighting.

If you want some of the documents that I received, I’ll leave a link to a couple of them below. Don’t be afraid to try therapy. It’s extremely difficult but it helps.

It’s different for everyone so what helped me might not help you. You and your therapist will figure out a plan together. I can’t wait to carry on my journey and to build on what I’ve learned over the last few months.

Have you ever done therapy? What were your thoughts?

Lifestyle Mental Health

5 Ways To Reset For The Upcoming Week

One of my favourite type of vlogs to watch on Youtube is looking at how people prepare for the upcoming week. They’re so much fun to watch and you get some amazing ideas on how to reset. There are a bunch of things you can do to get you ready for a brand new week! Whether you do nothing at all or try to get as much done as possible, it’s still your Sunday. Self-Care Sunday!

Let me know what you guys do to prepare for the week. I’m nosy, okay?

Tidy rooms

This isn’t something I always do on a Sunday.

It tends to depend, as everything does, on how my mental health is doing. There are days when I can stick on Spotify and get things sorted. Other days, I’m lucky if I can even do the dishes. I think there is a saying that ‘a tidy house makes a tidy mind’ and that is so true.

A big trigger of my anxiety is being untidy. I’ll be honest and say that I do have an okay flat, but I do tend to have piles of different things on my sofa. I accumulate it all during the week and I don’t have a lot of storage. If I keep it close to hand, I’ll be able to grab.

Tidy around and you’ll start the week all clean!

Do nothing

It’s a little contradictory that this one is doing nothing but yeah…do nothing.

Our weeks are usually pretty hectic (ignoring ‘Rona) and we don’t always have time to sit still. On Sundays, we can. Well, most of us. If you work Sundays, I admire you greatly!

What better thing to do than have a Sunday reset.

Reset yourself – mind, body and soul. Do some yoga, catch up on sleep, watch some Netflix and chill. They say Sundays are meant to be a day of rest!

Do some self-care

If you are doing nothing, that means you have time to self-care. I’m so guilty of not looking after myself any day of the week and it’s a serious problem. Maybe that’s why I watch so many videos. I’m living my best life through these vloggers!

  • Put on a face mask
  • Paint your nails
  • Have a nap
  • Read

Meal-prep for the week

Since we’re having a reset and preparing, why not get some meals cooked for the rest of the week? That will take one thing off your to-do list.

I’ve tried a couple of times to meal-prep but I’m still trying to find the best things to cook. I’m super indecisive especially when the weather is warm. I hate cooking when it’s super hot outside! People get hangry for food, I get hangry for being a freaking tap!

Create a plan

My favourite for all things to do during all this chaos!!

Life has been so unpredictable this year and I’ve hated it. All the things we were supposed to do went the metaphorical window and left us all with cabin fever. I’m hopeless when it comes to doing nothing since my brain doesn’t switch off. I have to be doing something!

That’s why I try to create a plan on my reset day. I write down all the things I want to do/need to do during the upcoming week and make a list. Which things are super important and need to be done earlier in the week, which can I delay to later in the day…

What things do you do to reset for the new week?

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How Much Should We Really Share Online?

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Over the last couple of decades, our prescence online has reached an all-time high! More and more people are using it to capture moments, share memories and following people they love. It’s crazy how addicted we have become on sharing everything and anything online.

From a baby’s birth to saying goodbye to drooling over food, we share it all.

I never realised how much we share online until I started thinking about it. While it’s easy to focus on the positives of social media, it got me wondering: do how much do we really share online? There are so many out there with power to ruin our entire online experience and sometimes even our lives. They troll, bully and blackmail with the info that you’ve put out there.

I promise I’m not trying to put people off using social media once it’s pretty vital to a blogger! I’m just typing out loud, that’s all.

No matter which social media you use (Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Youtube or Pinterest), there is always the possibility of being targeted. As a blogger, we’re in the unique circumstance of sharing our lives online. There aren’t many jobs/hobbies that do that (right now) and it’s something that we’re slowly starting to learn more about.

When I was 11, the internet didn’t even impact my life at all. I didn’t even own a computer or a mobile phone.

The only time I got to use a computer was at school and, even then, it was rare! We had a computer corridor we got to use every now and again and the screens were black with green writing. I think they were Acorn ones and the only excitement I got was playing a game called Castle of Riddles!

As I went through school, social media became more and more apparent. People were learning what selfies were, they were texting more and doing poke wars on Facebook. It wasn’t until I was leaving school that I was introduced to Twitter and I fell in love. It was so much fun seeing what your favourite celebs were thinking or doing. I wouldn’t say that I became addicted to social media because  my mum had already set a limit on online time.

2008 was when I started to write and share more of my life online. I fell in love with a website called RupertGrint.Net and actually joined them as a news poster at one point. I’m still friends with one of the girls who ran the site (hi Steph!). It was writing on this website that introduced me to writing posts of any kind and I fell in love. How could I have not known about this world sooner?! Eventually I discovered the downside of how much we share online.

I started to hear horror stories of girls being groomed by men, teens driven to suicide by trolls and data being leaked. Just those 3 things stopped me from sharing as much as I did. I deleted where I lived and just gave the county, didn’t give me my proper first name until a few years ago and wouldn’t post local pictures. Even to this day, I don’t even follow local accounts out of fear that people will track that.

Now that we literally share everything online, it’s scary! How much do you think we should share online? I’d love to hear your thoughts, especially from my blogger friends!

Do you think we’re now at a point where we should be more careful or are we fine as we are?

Mental Health

Why I’ve Lost Myself To Depression Recently

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TRIGGER WARNING: This will talk a lot about depression and negative thoughts so please don’t read if you’re struggling right.

It’s been a long time since I’ve written an honest-to-god kind of post, but I feel it’s right to. You may have noticed that I have been more odd than usual since the start of lockdown.

The truth is that I haven’t taken to this ‘new normal’ well. In fact it had made me the worst I’ve been for years. I’ve been trying to figure out the best way to describe what my mental health has been like and the only way I know is through a blog post. I’ll try not to waffle on too much but maybe someone else will have felt the same.

So…what has been going on in my mental health world?

My eating disorder is out of control.

My brain refuses to work so I have horrendous concentration. This is the main reason why my posts and social media have been so sporadic. I ended up leaving a couple of comment swaps because I wasn’t able to read/comment on other posts. It’s made me feel like not only a hopeless blogger but a rubbish human being.

I haven’t felt human.

I’ve done human things such as getting up, eating and going to bed. That’s it. I haven’t been able to function during phone/zoom calls, haven’t been able to get fit or do any of the things most people seem to be doing. It isn’t for want of trying. I truly have tried my hardest every day to write a post or even to sit up on my sofa. The fact that I’ve even left bed is a miracle.

If it wasn’t for the fear of being sectioned during a pandemic, I would have voluntarily sectioned myself at the start. I’ll be honest and admit that I have felt nothing but a shell. My parents always taught me that I should be thankful for having my strength and my health, but I don’t feel it. Just because I physically look fine doesn’t mean that I’m not in agony.

Somehow I’ve lost who I am to my mind.

It’s taken control over everything I do and I hate it so much. I feel like I’ve forgotten who I even was before my depression appeared. There are pictures of me as a kid smiling and giggling and I literally can’t think of a day when I’ve smiled this year. You know you see those pictures of someone with a smile mask part off and the other part has tears? That’s me.

This blog has been my baby for 2 years now and I discovered that it was triggering me. The idea of not posting as often as other people, not having the motivation to schedule posts or posting on social media. I have tried to post a little on Twitter but even that has been a massive struggle. My depression makes me see the online world as everyone mocking me for my failures. Believe me, I know no-one is but that’s mental health in a nutshell. The only person mocking me right now is myself. Therapy is ever so slowly trying to help me see through that.

I guess it’s just hard to be positive when your world was already burning before all this.

All this said, I still aim to be there for friends who are struggling. If I can relate somehow to what they’re feeling, I’ll be there with a funny gif or a listening ear. I’ve had a small handful of people who I have spoken to in DMs when I’ve been super low and they’ve been a god-send.

I can’t say that I’ll post much while I battle this but I appreciate you being there anyway. There’s no question to answer for this post. Just stay safe.

 

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5 Frustrating Habits I’ve Developed While In Lockdown

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We’re 5 weeks into this total lockdown and I’ve really started to notice some frustrating habits that have developed during this.

I mean…my brain has always been a bit foggy and weird, but it’s actually been extra annoying over the last month and a bit. It helps that we’re all in the same boat so probably share some of these habits.

If you feel how I do, let me know so we can rant about it together!

Awful Concentration

I always thought I had pretty decent concentration considering what my head goes through but that is non-existent right now. I have never known it to be as bad as this. I’ve been trying to keep things as normal as they were before and it just isn’t happening. The one area I’ve really noticed this is writing blog posts!

I have so many ideas that I want to write and, every time I sit down to type one out, I’m left staring at my screen. It is really starting to annoy me and it’s a surprise that I’ve even managed to type this one. I guess I understand that we’re all going through an extremely rare situation and that will have a big impact. I just wish that it gave me a break every now and again.

It’s not just blog writing. I have awful concentration when it comes to reading too! *sob*

Even less sleep

Sleep has forever been a thorn in my side.

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve struggled sleeping whether from nightmares or over-thinking. As I’ve gotten older, insomnia has become my partner in crime and has been walking around my flat at all hours of the morning. I’m trying a bunch of different things to make me sleepier but not happening right now.

These days I’m lucky if I get even 4 hours sleep. It doesn’t help that my neighbours drive me around the bend with music and fighting, but my brain just won’t switch off! I’ve tried writing things down, turning my phone off, listening to music and pillow sprays…nothing.

If anyone has any ideas, I’d love to hear them. I need all the help I can get.

Snacking

Okay, due to have a binge-eating disorder, snacking is one of the frustrating habits I’ve had for a while. (Don’t worry…I’m seeing a clinic to help me figure this out!)

That said, snacking has been going alongside the lack of sleep.

The more I think about it, the more I’m starting to realise I snack to keep control. My life has gone completely out of control due to this stupid virus so eating is the only thing left to me. I snack if I’m bored too, I reckon. Surprisingly my snacks are pretty healthy, such as fruit and coconut yoghurt. It’s just the frequency of when I have them.

I’m trying to drink more to see if that curbs the craving but no luck as of yet.

Irritation

This is one of the few times that I’m actually glad that I live on my own.

My mum could have vouched that I have a bit of a temper when I have things on my mind. It might surprise you but I think that’s just my Irish side coming out! In normal circumstances I can only rage and rant internally and keep from people seeing how irritated I am. However I’ve noticed how easily irritated I’ve been these last few weeks.

Sun blazing through my window? GAH.

Birds tweeting too loudly? SHUT UP!

Accidentalily scratching myself with a sharp nail? WHY?!

It’s no surprise that I’m getting more and more grey hairs! I bet I’ll be more grey than brown by the end of this! Haha!

Crying

Out of all these frustrating habits, crying isn’t that much of a surprise.

On a lot of my school reports I was told that I’m a little sensitive. That I would cry over little things and that I had to try and toughen myself up a bit. Considering that I was bullied horrendously through school, I think they should have picked on why I cried so much.

Zipping forward to present day, it’s also no surprise that I’m crying more.

I’m stressed!!

If I wasn’t already on medication for my mental health, then I would be yelling at my GP to put me on some as soon as possible. The last time I cried was last Friday when my antidepressants didn’t come up with the rest of my repeat prescription. I thought I wouldn’t get any for the next 4 days, the lady on 111 kept asking why I couldn’t have family fetch them for me from Tesco and my anxiety was already through the roof.

I broke.

It’s all sorted now thankfully (at least for this month) but I expect I’ll have more days when I’ll be a sobbing mess.

What frustrating habits have you noticed since lockdown started?

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Learning To Find The Positives In A Difficult Situation

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Whether it’s living through a pandemic or battling mental health, it can still almost impossible to find any positives in a difficult situation. Believe me, I’ve been there many, many times. I was even there today. I can’t say that I’ll give any decent tips, but I did want to try and find even one happy thing to appreciate.

It’s not easy.

Something that may be positive for one person might not work for another.

I guess that’s why I love doing list posts because I can work through what’s in my head. It definitely stops me from babbling on! Though I do that too! Haha!

As you can tell from yesterday’s post, I love trying to find ways to help people smile. I’m not a funny person myself so I let happy things do the work for me! Who doesn’t love discovering that there is a ferret called Oliver who goes hiking! The little things, people! Animals are amazing.

Family

This has to be one of the biggest positives of this pandemic.

We’ve always had excuses in the past that we didn’t have any time to really focus on family. Now we don’t have that excuse! We literally have all the time in the world to reconnect with each other again. I’ve heard so many people are playing board games, going on walks and coming up with creative things to do indoors.

However, I know there are way too many families kept apart by the virus. I imagine a positive you could find with this is that we have technology! I know it’s nothing like having the real people there, but you can still connect. Grandparents are reading bed-time stories to kids, families are playing quizzes on Zoom and more.

Who knew we’d feel super lucky for wanting to be online!

Pets

Like I said earlier, animals are amazing!!

If I could be the crazy cat lady from The Simpsons, I would do that in a heartbeat. I really miss having Jewel sleeping on my lap while I read a book or watched Netflix. You never realise just how important pets can be to your mental health until you’re stuck indoors. They can always detect when you are feeling low or are upset.

I had have so many memories of Jewel just appearing at the right time to sit near me. Nothing more relaxing than stroking a cat’s fur.

I’ve seen some really funny TikToks of pets not knowing what to do with their human being there all the time. You get some that are super happy and others that wish you would disappear. Another TikTok trend are owners copying their pets such as looking out the window like their dog or curled up on the sofa like a cat.

How have your pets taken to you being there all day?

Learning/Re-Learning Skills

A great distraction is doing something like a hobby.

The positives of learning/re-learning skills is that they keep your mind busy. That way you have moments where you don’t have to think about the situation you’re in, even if it’s just for a little while. You could try learning a new language, take an online course or pick up a skill you used to do.

I’d love to say that I was a secret artistic genius but I’m a stick-person lady!

If you’re stuck in 12-week isolation, maybe try this! It doesn’t replace the need to go outside but it might pass some time if you enjoy!

Have you managed to find any positives in bad situations?

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My Nightmare Years With Food | Eating Disorders Awareness Week

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TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions of eating disorders, mental health

I wasn’t sure I would be able to write this post. I’m currently in therapy tackling my depression, anxiety and unhealthy relationship with food. I never realised how unhealthy it was until my mum pulled me aside one day and said that she believed I had an eating disorder. I was never diagnosed with one but I have had other medical people saying so. Maybe if my GP had recognised my habits earlier I’d be less of a mess.

Let me start at the beginning.

When I was at school I wasn’t a particularly big child. I wasn’t the smallest but I was always told that I was at a healthy weight for my age. That was fine with me and I was happy. Both my parents loved their food and my dad was an amazing cook. If he made curries or corned beef hash, I would eat! I would snack fine and I never thought about what I was eating. I never needed to.

It wasn’t until the bullying at secondary school kicked started something in me.

You know how cruel children can be when they want to.

I had all the usual insults thrown at me on a daily basis:

Ugly.
Freak.
Weirdo.

Fat.

Year 7 was the first time I was ever called fat.

I can look at photos from when I was 11 and see that I wasn’t fat at all. My face was round but that was genetics and I couldn’t control those.

So many things happened during my years at school that contributed to my life spiralling. The bullying, my dad dying and just your general teen stresses. I’ll admit that I did start eating more to distract myself from my thoughts. If I ate, I could focus on something instead of crying. Skip to 2010 when my GP at the time said the worst thing than any of my bullies:

“You are morbidly obese.”

I was 10 and a half stone.

How could a medical professional look at that weight and say that I was not just obese but morbidly obese? According to the NHS, a person can be classed as that when they are either 100 pounds over their ideal body weight or at a BMI of 40. Is it any wonder that I developed eating disorders after this?

I went from a woman in her 20s who ate food normally to someone who only ate bites.

Whenever I got a meal I would leave at least half of it. If I ate bread, I would pull the middle of the sandwich and leave the rest. I would often skip meals and snacks during the day. I would look in the mirror and see a ginormous person looking at me.

Sorry about the sideways picture but this was the only picture I had of myself at my thinnest. I was at the top end of 7st. I thought I looked normal, even when people said that I didn’t look well. I guess it wasn’t until Mum said I looked like a skeleton that I took a look at myself.

I wasn’t well at all but I chose not to go to the doctors. I had completely lost faith in them and the only person I trusted was my mum. It was so difficult to start eating all of my meals and seeing the pounds piling her but I knew it made her happier.

The problem was that the thoughts never changed.

I still saw myself as super fat and it was killing me inside. I think it was going to take a lot of help to change almost a decade of negative thoughts about myself. Unfortunately, before I could get proper help, Mum died and my world imploded. Instead of not eating, I ate everything. I would eat whole tubs of Magnum, whole loaves of bread and couldn’t leave anything.

This is where I’m currently at.

I eat whole packs of things and then hit myself. Not gentle hits either. I will punch my stomach, legs, whack myself around my face and head. It’s so hard to type this and I’m in tears typing it but I need to be honest. Last week I was diagnosed officially with a binge eating disorder. I’ve had an inkling that this was the case after reading the symptoms of Beat, but I hadn’t had an actual diagnosis.

I genuinely hate that I’m like this and, even though I’ve lost 6lbs and am currently at 11st 5, I have to be monitored that I don’t take myself back to 7st. My clinical psychologist said that everything is linked to body dysmorphia. Ugh. My therapy session last week actually had me talking about my relationship with food and it was so hard. I’ve never truly been honest with anyone about food and me, not even with my mum. I know I need to start being though.

If you believe that you or someone you love may have an eating disorder, you can either talk to your GP or contact the BEAT helpline on 0808 801 0677, 0808 801 0711 (Youthline) or 0808 801 0811.

No question for this post but please look after yourselves and support everyone during Eating Disorders Awareness Week.

Mental Health

30 Inspirational Quotes To Read If You Are Stuck

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One of the posts I remember doing on my old blog was one about inspirational quotes that got me through a day, a month and a year. I’ve literally got a whole board on quotes that have inspired me and made me laugh. I think sometimes you read ones that are meant to be helpful but are actually condescending. You can also read ones that don’t make sense at the time but do in the future.

The quotes I have below have helped me a lot in recent years with my mental health. I hope in turn they can either help you or at least give you a smile.

  1. You are allowed to outgrow people.
  2. One of the biggest mistakes we make is believing other people think the way we think.
  3. Be patient with yourself. Nothing in nature blooms all year.
  4. You’re doubting yourself again. Stop that.
  5. Don’t let anyone rent space in your head unless they are a good tenant.
  6. Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path.
  7. Work hard in silence. Let your success be your noise.
  8. Just in case no-one has told you lately, the progress you’re making truly matters.
  9. We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when creating them.
  10. We are told to put on a brave face, but sometimes the bravest thing is to take the mask off.
  11. If you’re on medication for your mental health, that’s okay. They’re like glasses for your brain.
  12. Fight like a Disney princess.
  13. You are either on my side, at my side or in my way. Choose wisely.
  14. Tears are words the heart can’t say.
  15. You are not alive just to pay bills and lose weight.
  16. If Plan A doesn’t work, the alphabet has 25 more letters.
  17. People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
  18. It’s okay. You just forgot who you are. Welcome back.
  19. You are powerful, beautiful, brilliant and brave.
  20. Somewhere there is a past you overflowing with so much pride looking at how far you’ve come.
  21. You would be surprised at who is watching your journey and being inspired by it. Don’t give up.
  22. It’s okay if you fall apart sometimes. Tacos fall apart and we still love them.
  23. If someone asks ‘are you crazy?’, simply reply yes. Boom. End of discussion.
  24. If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours.
  25. You’re healing and that terrifies them. They’ve never met a woman who can break several times and put herself together with nothing but self-love.
  26. When life shuts a door, open it. It’s a door. That’s how they work.
  27. Take time to be thankful for what you have. You could always have more, but you could also have less.
  28. They laugh at me because I’m different. I laugh at them because they’re all the same.
  29. Don’t be hard on yourself. The mum in ET had an alien living in her house for days and didn’t notice.
  30. Avoiding certain people to protect your emotional health is not a weakness. It’s wisdom.

Which quotes do you find inspirational and help you?

Lifestyle Mental Health

5 Things You Should Try To Do Every Day

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Every one was taught as a child to do certain things every day to be healthy. I can remember being taught how to properly brush my teeth at school, eat a balanced diet and even dealing with periods. It was like having a third parents in my life!

The problem is that, as soon as you reach adulthood, things start to lack. You wish that there were lessons for you to do every day to maintain sanity. Those lessons could be super simple or they could be tricky like money! I still don’t get money. I guess it’s a good job that I don’t earn a lot. Haha! I thought I’d try to come up with things to do every day that you might not think of yourself.

Stay hydrated

You would think that this would be a super obvious one to do every day but you’d be surprised! I don’t even do it and I know that I should.

The recommended water intake you’re meant to have is 8 glasses a day. It isn’t that Sometimes you have to be creative with how you take it in. You could have cups of green tea, buy a hydro-flask that tells you times to drink at or just always have water near you. That way you’ll see it when you look up and will be able to sip.

Since you’re reading this post, why not go grab some water now?

Laugh

This is another simple yet tough one to do especially if you suffer from mental health or struggling. Apparently 3-4 years old laugh up to 300 times a day and adults only 17! That’s crazy when you think about it, right? It’s sad that we lose that sense of fun as we grow up. I can understand why since life happens but still sad.

While I doubt we’ll be able to get you laughing as often as a kid, maybe these ideas could help:

  • Watch a comedy film you haven’t seen in a while
  • Watch a cat/dog video
  • Tell a loved one ‘bad jokes’
  • Look back at old photos/watch home videos

Make at least one meal at home

So many of us either eat out or order in and that’s understandable. We have busy lives and don’t always feel like cooking.

You don’t have to make a four course meal! You could easily make something quick like scrambled eggs or a salad. The meal doesn’t have to be hot, just homemade.

Walk 30 minutes a day

Something that has made life easier for me or at least feel accomplished is walking 30 minutes a day.

If my legs aren’t declaring war on me and the weather is behaving, I walk. There is something really relaxing about walking in the sun. You can get away from social media and clear your mind. Not everyone can walk 30 minutes in one go so you could try doing it in 10 minute intervals.

Hug a loved one/pet

Apparently it’s been shown that by hugging someone your blood pressure goes down. Don’t quote me on that but I’m sure I heard that fact on some scientific show! Haha! It could be your pet!

Even though I can’t do this one every day, I do try to visit my local cat cafe once a week to hug cats. They keep me calm and ease my anxiety. If I can have at least one day with being anxious I’ll be happy! You can never go wrong with furry cuddles! Though you have to catch a cat at the right moment.

Talk to someone

It isn’t just the elderly that can get lonely. Any person of any age can suffer from loneliness. I myself suffer with it almost every day since I don’t have any relatives closeby. It’s why I try to take myself out of my flat and do something. I go to craft classes, visit my local library or just walk around town. Along the way I’ll eventually chat with someone and that is a good thing.

Try not to exclude yourself for people. You matter.

Oh, and talk physically! We’re all online way too much methinks!

What things do you think we should do every day?

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