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How I’ve Been Coping With My Binge-Eating Disorder

If you’ve been following my mental health journey over the last few years then you’ll know that I’m currently battling a binge-eating disorder. Weight has been a demon of mine I’ve battling ever since I was a teenager.

Before I carry on with this post, I’m going to pop a TRIGGER WARNING right here.I will be chatting a little bit about my BED history and therapy so don’t want to trigger anyone. You’re more than welcome to read some of my other random blog posts.

Where did all my problems with eating begin? This post will explain all about my nightmare with food and what caused me to lose all kinds of control with it. Even to this day I can’t read my own post due to being triggered by it. It’s something I’m working on in therapy.

Late last year I contacted a local eating disorder charity called First Steps to be assessed for possible therapy. I’d already done general therapy but these guys would focus solely on my eating disorder. The assessment was an experience for me since I’m still trying to learn how not to feel guilty. Guilt is a major thorn in my side.

That’s where my brain is at right now.

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I started my ED therapy on 13th January with another wonderful trainee called Lisa. I was pretty nervous on my first session with her because I had to have my camera on. It’s something I try to avoid whenever possible but I’m kind of not allowed to. They understand that it’s difficult for sufferers but it’s one hurdle I’m managing to overcome. It’s a little easier on the phone because the camera is pretty teeny so I don’t have to see my face. Haha.

You’re probably wondering what my sessions have been consisting of.

It has mostly had a jumble of usual therapy stuff (chatting about my past and my emotions) and also focusing on my relationship with food. If you’ve suffered with either a binge-eating disorder or any kind of eating disorder, then you’ll understand how awful it can be to think about food.

It’s crazy to think that something vital to our lives can also have a negative impact.  I feel so many different emotions when we chat about my week and food diary:

  • Embarrassment
  • Shame
  • Anger
  • Disgust
  • Relief

Over the first 4 sessions we’ve spoken about my relationship with bread and how my disorder is almost a type of self-harm. I never thought about it that way before but it makes sense. Every time my ED has flared up, something traumatic has happened in my life. Whether it’s after being bullied or a death in my family. I gained a whole bunch of weight after my dad died, then went down to 8st after my GP said I was morbidly obese at 12st and then put all the weight back on after mum died.

So many little connections.

Something I love about therapy is that you’re not judged. You can literally talk about anything (within reason) and not have to worry. My brain does worry about what she’s thinking but I have to let those fears go. I have 15 sessions left to go with Lisa and I’m really hoping to finally make some progress with this. I’m tired of these thoughts and need to take back control.

Even though I’ve lived through these 4 sessions, I literally can’t remember everything we talk. A lot of it is just talking on the spot, sometimes sharing my mood tracker (which Lisa really seemed to love) and going over my mood. One day I could be okay and the next I feel like I want to disappear. I hate having to think about myself when I know others are struggling much more than me.

We did come to the conclusion that my eating habits and body image may be genetic. Both my parents struggled with their weight so it was a sure thing that I would as well. I guess it just depends what happens in a person’s life to kick-start a particular way of thinking. Mine came in the form of bullying, genetics and life. One of my dreams for doing all this is to not only eat what I want without thinking about the consequences and feel comfortable in my body.

The other things I can do with First Steps are some workshops. These are group activities and carry on for as long as I want them, even when the therapy is over. These are some of the workshops I can take part in:

  • Dance Movement
  • Skills for Carers
  • Art Creative Workshop
  • Eating Disorder in Student Services
  • Waiting Well Support Group
  • Thursday All Ages Support Group
  • Body Image Workshops
  • Stand Up (Comedy) To Mental Health Recovery

I’m excited to work on my body image because it’s an utter nightmare right now. I can’t look at my reflection in anything without wanting to cry or avoid. It’s my goal this year to think at least one nice thing about myself and I will do it! I had been planning to do a diary entry post about my therapy sessions but I’m not sure how well this one will do. Let’s see!

If you’re struggling with any kind of eating disorder, don’t suffer alone. There are more of us out there than you think and, like First Steps says, ‘eating disorders are not just about being underweight’. They come in many different forms and your feelings are justified!

Have you ever had to deal with a binge-eating disorder personally or through family?

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How To Cope With Invisible Illness Frustration

If you’ve never heard of the term ‘invisible illness‘ before, the explanation is in the name. A illness that you can’t see with the naked eye/can’t always see outside the body. It’s basically describing a bunch of illnesses that you may not have heard much of such as:

  • ADHD
  • Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD)
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Depression
  • Multiple Sclerosis
  • Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

To learn more about some of the invisible illnesses out there, check out these links. They’ll give you better information than I can! Haha!

There are so many invisible illnesses out there that we’d be here all day if I mentioned all of them! As you’ve probably guessed, not every disability is visible. People with these types of illnesses often seem okay on the outside and that tends to make their life even more challenging.

invisible illnessPhoto by Sydney Sims on Unsplash

What could possibly frustrate someone like this? Oh, there are more reasons than there should be and it sucks that even one of these happens. As we don’t always have aids to help us, abled people tend to make it their job to judge us.

  • Being harassed for using a disabled parking space.
  • Being harassed for sitting in a disabled bus seat.
  • Struggling to get friends to understand how difficult it can be to go out.

Not only do we have to suffer the symptoms from our illnesses but we also have to defend outselves (even from medical professionals). I’ve had to see so many different people and it can be really disheartening when you have to prove to others that you’re actually suffering and it’s not all in your head.

As recent as yesterday there has been a picture making its way around Twitter chatting about living with pain. The techniques they shared to ease pain is to dust off your bike and go for a ride, see if you can lessen your pain medication and go for walks. My thought? Have these people even suffered with a chronic illness before?! I would give anything to be able to do any of these without pain then or later on. I’m lucky if I can walk 3000 steps in a day sometimes and that’s why I’m trying to push myself a little.

I asked some friends who suffer from an invisible illness if they could chat a little about their frustrations and how they deal with them.

Chloe Metzger (Mental Health & Fibromyalgia)

When in a non-pandemic using disabled toilets or spaces on public transport because I’m young and look healthy. I have my stick with me just to signal to people I need the seat. Even then sometimes it’s rare for someone to give up their seat for me.

It’s hard…I normally take a book or my phone out and just look at that instead.

Kara Cole (Severe Anxiety, Emotional Instability, Hypermobility spectrum disorder (HSD) and Fibromyalgia)

The hardest thing for me is the inconsistencies. What you do one day is not the same as what you can do the next. It’s frustrating getting others to understand and acknowledge that, but it’s more frustrating to deal with that yourself. A string of bad days is heartbreaking.

The support from believers is invaluable. Friends or family who believe you and fight for you are amazing. They can fight for you even when you can’t.

The problem is that because women are more prone to these types of conditions, doctors put the symptoms we have to us being either emotional and that it’s just all connected to mental health. I literally went to a pain management class that told me I wasn’t really feeling pain. It was just the nerves in my pain pretending to make the feeling of pain.

Coping Ideas

One. Record everything in a diary and say where exactly your pain is. Say how long the pain lasts and what situations tend to flare up your pain.

Two. When you start seeing doctors, see if you can get a copy of your medical records and test results. It’s something you can take to other professionals in the future.

Three. If you’re a friend or family member of someone with an invisible illness, please try not to judge a book by its cover. If someone has a chronic condition like IBD or fibromyaligia, they may look fine but they’re more likely going to be exhausted, in a lot of pain and dealing with other possible things

Four. Remember that you are not alone. For every person that judges you, there will be someone out there that understands what you’re doing through. Chat with them when you need to and try to educate those around you. The more people understand invisible illnesses, the easier the world will be for us.

Five. Be patient. If someone with an illness chats with you about their condition, be patient with them and listen. They’ve had to deal with a lot of stigma up until this point and it has probably taken a great deal of courage to talk to you.

It’s very difficult to struggle in silence. I don’t like to be a bother to people and tend to give up the disabled seat when I see someone with a stick or wheelchair. It’s getting to a point where I will be needing an aid to help me with my walking and I’m currently on the list for a worker to help with my communication issues due to lockdown and my autism. Even now I don’t mind waiting. There is always someone worse off than me and I’d prefer if they got the help first.

Remember: don’t automatically assume that someone is okay or ‘normal’ just because they look like it. It’s usually on those days when they put on a mask just to get through that moment.

Last month there was an awesome campaign called ‘Making The Invisible Visible‘ where a group of sufferers took pictures of themselves with labels of their illness on their body. It was super inspiring and it’s raised over £800 to date!

What are your frustrations on having an invisible illness and how do you cope?

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How To Find Your Blogging Voice As A Beginner Blogger

When you first decide to join the blogger world, it can seem really overwhelming. There are so many types of blogger out there from beauty to fashion to book. If you love it, then you can write about it which is amazing in this day and age. One thing you might struggle with right at the beginning is trying to find your blogging voice.

It’s so easy to look at how other bloggers write and copy their voice.

Believe me, I did it a little at the start and I soon realised how vital it was to discover your own. There’s no way you’ll find a local following if you sound exactly like every other blogger out there. It takes trial and error to find it, but when you do, it will be so much easier to create content.

Here are some ways to help you discover your blogging voice as a beginner blogger.

Blogging VoicePhoto by Corinne Kutz on Unsplash

Create a list of what you love

One of the most important things you need to choose at the start is what the heck you’re going to blog about. It’s more difficult that it sounds. If you’re like me then you will be in love with a bunch of different things. Before I choose to focus on a jumble of three things, I created a list of what I enjoyed/knew and could potentially choose:

  • Fandom
  • Books
  • Mental Health
  • Lifestyle
  • Theatre
  • Films

Since our community is so vast these days, it’s more than likely there will be hundreds of people blogging about one of your loves. It can be annoying but it’s just one of the elements we have to accept. By creating a list you can pick and choose a couple of things and make your blog unique.

Read before you create

There are multiple ways to start a blog.

You can either make a WordPress or Blogger account and start blogging straight away. That or you follow someone else’s blog for a while and learn before you try. I was the latter and was a reader of a bunch of different blogs for years! My favourites had to be FleurDeForce, InTheFrow and LydiaEliseMillen. I might be a walking fashion disaster but I can still appreciate blogs about it and beauty!

That introduced me to blogging being a hobby to take part in and, to be fair, I can’t figure out how I discovered the community on Twitter! Haha! I’m forgetful in my old age. Reading different sites brought my attention to themes, writing layouts and possible navigation.

They gave me a bunch of ideas and it made my life so much easier when it came to creating it.

Test the waters

Want to know if your new blogging voice is working? Post!

You won’t know what works unless you create content and post it for people to check out. I definitely haven’t figured this one out just yet. Sometimes something that worked one time might not work the next. You kind of have to test the waters to see what content is popular and focus that day to that subject.

People will start to learn what kinds of topics you like to chat more about and what your niche is. If it’s something they like to read, they’re more likely to follow your blog.

What ways have you used to help finding your voice?

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The First Lookthrough Of My 2021 Bullet Journal

It’s the first day of 2021 so happy new year, everyone! I hope you all had a good one considering. I actually just chilled in my PJs and watched the London display from my bed. You can’t go wrong with a relaxing start to a new year, can you?

One of the few things I loved about 2020 was doing my bullet journal. There’s something relaxing about learning some new skills and putting them to good use. I only had my Mina Lima notebook to write in so couldn’t be as pretty as I wanted but I reckon I did pretty good!

Let me introduce my 2021 bullet journal to you! It took a little drafting but I’m loving how it’s turning out.

Bullet Journal

Pinterest really is the best place to get inspiration for journalling. I loved discovering different creations and picking and choosing from the pictures I saw. A lot of what you’ll see was inspired and just changed a little to my tastes. I thought that I would use yellow for my first theme of the year. It’s so bright and makes everything look so happy!

I wanted to experiment with the different pens so used my yellow Tombow Dual Brush with a Uni Pin Fine Line (0.5) and a white gel pen. Do I sound like a stationery blogger yet?! I do love my pens even if I don’t know how to use them properly. Haha!

Can you tell I’ve been working on my lettering too?

I haven’t discovered how to do those stunning watercoloured quote pages yet, but I still wanted to include a quote to prepare me for 2021. This one really spoke to me for some reason. Being able to be the you that could be instead of working on someone you’re not meant to be.

Comparison loves to warp your perception. It’s something I’m going to be working with my therapist on next week so wish me luck!

With mental health being a giant part of my life, I needed somewhere to dump all the rubbish that’s inside of my brain. Not necessarily the negative stuff, but all the random stuff. I have a bunch of that in my ol’ noggin and what better place to store it than on a brain dump page.

We might not be able to go to the cinema in person right away but, as last year revealed, the film industry know how to bring them to us. We had new Disney films on Disney Plus, straight to screen on Sky Movies and even Netflix got in on the action.

2021 has more films than this coming out but these are the ones that have caught my eye. I’m particularly excited for Cruella, Spiderman 3 and Respect! I’m predicting that Respect will have some Oscars buzz for 2022! Yes, I’m looking ahead to next year already!

Below I have a bookcase for at least 30 books I want to read this year. I’ll probably add at least 20 more if I can. Let’s just see what happens, shall we? We also have a saving wishlist because I seriously need a carpet in my flat (my feet are cold!) and a new laptop (it’s 10 years old this year!). If I’m going to get a new one, I’m saving up for a Macbook Pro.

It’s great to be back blogging again. I’ve missed it and definitely planning to make more posts more frequently. I’ve had my year of utter depression and NO MORE! Daisy is being reborn into a blogger once more!

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‘You Can’t Be Sia-rious’ – Reflecting On Sia’s Upcoming Film

If you were on Twitter a few days ago, you may have seen me reacting to a trailer. This trailer was for the singer Sia’s debut film Music. When I first saw the picture for it, I was pretty impressed. It looked bright and colourful and I did like some of Sia’s music. However, when I discovered what the film was about and saw the trailer, my thoughts quickly changed.

Sia

Zu (Kate Hudson), a newly sober drug dealer and self-saboteur finds herself the sole guardian of her teenaged, autistic half-sister, Music (Maddie Ziegler). Zu is a free spirit barely able to take care of herself, let alone her sister; Zu struggles with this new responsibility, but soon learns that life’s obstacles are made easier with a little help from a friend, Ebo (Leslie Odom Jr.), a neighbor whose own family story makes him someone Zu can learn from and rely upon.

As someone on the autistic spectrum, I’m always a little on the fence when it comes to media featuring it.

There have been a bunch of TV shows/films that have featured autistic characters. There have been some that have been incredible such as The A Word and a CBeebies show called Pablo. Yet there have been others that were sometimes questionable like The Good Doctor and Atypical.

Something that nearly all these things have in common are that the ‘autistic’ character is usually played by a neurotypical actor.

Personally I’m kind of on the fence about this.

If it’s evident that the actor has done their research about autism and shows an understanding, then I don’t normally mind it. However, if an actor has been shown purely for the name or laziness, then that’s when I struggle. This is where I’m standing with Music.

1. Not everyone on the spectrum are non-verbal.

GAHHH!

Okay…every time I see something with an autistic character, they are always shown to be either non-verbal or over-the-top. It’s great that they’re showing one element of the spectrum! That’s a great start! However, we’re not all like this. It’s such a wide spectrum.

2. There are more autistic actors out there they could’ve cast!

Regardless of the controversy over casting Maddie Ziegler as Music, I do think she’s an amazing up-and-coming actor. The problem is that there are actually autistic actors that could have portrayed this character. Yes, they may not be non-verbal but at least they would be on the spectrum.

Apparently Sia tweeted that she did look into casting a non-verbal young girl but…

“I actually tried working with a beautiful young girl non-verbal on the spectrum and she found it unpleasant and stressful.”

While I appreciate that she tried, this could have been an incredible opportunity to learn more about autism. She could have helped introduced practices on sets to make Hollywood more accessible. However, she went for Maddie. Sia could have approached: Kayla Cromer, Dan Aykroyd or even Susan Boyle!

There are also a number of undiscovered autistic actors out there! I’m not saying that non-autistic people can’t play these characters. Look at Freddie Highmore and Jim Parsons. They did such a great job! There’s just certain roles like this that should be considered more carefully.

3. Sia’s responses to tweets

There are many ways you could respond to criticism. Believe me, my acting tutor told me that 99% of us would never get an acting job…on our first day! You’re upset by it and may spiral, but you eventually learn from your mistakes. You don’t lash out at the public for their views!

“Maybe you’re just a bad actor.”

“F**king bullsh*t. You have no f**king idea because you weren’t there and haven’t seen the movie.”

“I cast thirteen neuroatypical people, three trans folk, and not as f**king prostitutes or drug addicts but as doctors, nurses and singers.”

These responses are horrendous!!

They do not help at all. I understand it’s probably devastating that people are negative about something Sia has worked on. Yet, she should at least try to understand it from the perspective of the autism community. She’s not just talking to someone in her family. She’s talking to the worldwide public and has to be more professional than this, not just cuss everyone out.

She also consulted with a controversial ‘charity’ called Autism Speaks. Just google them and you’ll see why people are face-palming.

4. It is one big sensory nightmare!

We all know that Sia is a little out there. She dresses different, has a persona of hiding her face and more. I love that she looked at the focus of music. I personally use music a lot to ground me, to escape from the world and sometimes to understand people.

Unfortunately someone didn’t do their research!!

The trailer itself is a sensory nightmare! The music is too loud, the colours super bright and people just dancing all over the place. Maybe this would be incredible for a typical person but an autistic viewer could have a sensory overload!

Sia – If you do ever find this post, please learn from our community. We’re not trolls, we’re not attacking you. We’re simply wanting our world to be understood.

If you want to learn more about autism, please head over to the National Autistic Society‘s website. It has so much information!

What are your thoughts on Sia’s film trailer for Music? I’d love to know especially if you’re on the spectrum or have an autistic loved one!

 

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What’s On My Christmas Jumper Wishlist for 2020?

Who else has been contemplating putting up their Christmas decorations early? A few people on my street have already done it and I’m so tempted. I think we all deserve to celebrate earlier and one of the ways I want to do it is getting some Christmas jumpers. I have none tucked away and it’s good to have some options.

Have I been looking into getting some for a couple of months? Yes.

Have I made myself a little wishlist of jumpers that I love? Of course!

jumperPhoto by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

Eru Christmas Elf Hoodie (£32)

Before anyone says ‘Daisy, this isn’t a jumper!’, it was classed as one on the Next website and that’s enough for me! Haha! One of the things I loved about this option was that it was ELF-related. Anything to do with that film wins. Buddy just makes everything instantly Christmas!

I’m not sure how long the hoodie itself is but still looks amazing!

Threadbear Christmas Dog Jumper (£24)

You can’t have a Christmas jumper wishlist without one that has a festive animal on it! I wish I could find one with a cat, but this dog one is adorable too! Look at it! It has little fairy lights on it and a pair of teeny boots!

If we’re going to go into other details, I also love the grey and red combo! It makes this look less cheesy and more something you wouldn’t be embarrassed in seeing yourself in.

Perfect choice for dog lovers out there!

Sparkle Tree Christmas Jumper (£15)

If Christmas isn’t the perfect time to wear a sparkly jumper, then I don’t know when is. I’m not usually a massive fan of sparkle but it tends to make me think 80s, but I do love what Matalan has done with this. It doesn’t look like it’s overkill and the sparkle does remind me of my tinsel!

The tree on the front is something that really made me love this. I can’t deal with decoration on the front of a top that sticks out. It always manages to catch on something and made wearing it a nightmare. While this does have little baubles and candy canes that stick out, it’s only slightly.

Cute yet functionable!

‘Fa LaLaLaLa’ Black Jumper (£22)

If you’re someone that does like all the bright colours and sparkle, then you might enjoy this minimal black and white jumper from Tu Clothing at Sainsbury’s.

It still has the festive edge with the ‘Fa Lalalala’ on the front, but it isn’t as much in your face as the others. I reckon this would be great for everyday wear during this month and December and carry on until Christmas 2021. Black and white can never go out of fashion!

At least I hope not! Haha.

Disney Minnie Mouse Jumper (£16)

You can’t have a post on my blog without some fandom-related jumpers!

Of course I had to find myself a Disney one to include and I thought this Minnie Mouse sweatshirt was adorable! It’s as simple as it sounds. It has Minnie looking up at some mistletoe and I’m sure that special someone will give you a kiss under it!

It’s also white so you really could wear this throughout the year. I doubt anyone else would care that it’s technically something festive.

How To Train Your Dragon | Elsa From Frozen | Baby Yoda (£55.99)

If you’re looking for some more alternative jumpers that are pretty expensive but super detailed, then EMP has so many options from you to choose from! I can’t vouch on how thick they are, but look at these designs I saw! They’re really unique and lots of nerds would flock to these!

First up, we have Toothless from How To Train Your Dragon! It’s super rare to find any clothing with Toothless on it and I gave a little internal squeal when I saw that he had a Christmas jumper. I love it! It’s in his usual clothes and has tiny designs of dragon and viking helmets. You even get a design on the back too!

I’m in love with the Elsa jumper!! It comes in different shades of blue, a gorgeous silohette of Elsa, snowflakes and mini dancing Olafs! You don’t have to be a child to love a Disney princess. Just let it go, okay?! *wink*

Finally we have the cutest little child in the universe! You can watch all the latest Mandalorian episodes on Disney Plus while wearing this! I bet The Child would be the perfect little space elf. The jumper has ‘This is my good side’ on the front and ‘Merry Forth Be With You’ on the back!

Which Christmas jumper will you be wearing this year?

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Controlling What I Consume On Social Media

Over the last few months I’ve written a couple of posts about social media. I’ve shared all my little peeves about it and how to engage with audience. It’s such an essential element for a blogger to have, especially when they’re starting out. It helps you market your posts, correspond with brands and chat with your readers.

I’m a bit of an enigma when it comes to social media. I rarely use Instagram or Facebook and only venture onto Twitter, Pinterest and TikTok. Kind of obviously why my views are always super low! Haha! I started blogging back in 2014 and the way we use this media has changed so much.

It’s only in the last couple of years that I’ve allowed myself to control what I read/watch. You can easily get overwhelmed by news, posts and opinions on these sites. My mental health has constantly been triggered by comparisons, unrelated images and nasty rants. If I’m going to use these sites daily, why shouldn’t I market it towards my personal tastes? I shouldn’t be ashamed to mute or even block accounts.

Social Media

It was around February last year when I finally had enough. I was sick of seeing news about politics, reading tweets from celebrities I didn’t like and even being subjected to videos of animal abuse. My Twitter had to show all the fandoms I loved from voice actors, merch and fan chatter.

I wanted to surround myself with people who make me feel wanted and care about what I tweet. I wanted to be excited to click onto the site and enjoy what I saw. Yes, that means watching adorable cat videos! Twitter wasn’t the only place that I changed things. I did the same on Youtube, Pinterest and TikTok. There is something special about motivational quotes, successes of friends and fangirling news!

This time yesterday I was asdf-ing over some Tom Holland news. That is definitely the kind of news I want to see every day!

As I’ve gotten older, my tastes have changed. Content creators who I used to adore have changed or disappeared and it’s easier for me to see videos/posts with fewer subscriptions. You don’t even want to know how many people I used to follow because they were ‘cool’. I’ll admit that unfollowing certain people was painful at the time but I had to be honest with myself. When did I last watch/read their content? Did I enjoy what they did?

The one site that I’ve had to be brutally honest on is Twitter.

Photo by Eaters Collective on Unsplash

It took me a long time to feel okay using the mute and block options. Guilt was what had previously prevented me doing this, but I decided that I had to put myself first. First I muted words that I didn’t want to see, then moved onto accounts. I hate the idea of blocking people unless I have a very good reason. That reason usually is they’re either obvious spam accounts or adult ones. No-one needs to see that on their timeline!

I’ll be frank with you: I have muted friends in the past.

Muting them doesn’t mean that I don’t like them. Muting them just means that they’re a little triggering for me. Obviously people probably notice when I mute them and unfollow. If that was you, sorry! I swear it wasn’t personal! One of the biggest things I’ve tackled this year is blocking spam accounts. Yes, they make me look like I have a bunch of followers. They don’t read my blog though! I’m just purely a number for them.

Doing this has taken me down to under 5000 but at least I know my followers are people who are real.

If you’re thinking about looking at your own social media accounts, here are some tips:

  • Don’t be afraid to unfollow someone.
  • Try not to feel upset if you’re unfollowed.
  • Take a break if you need one.
  • Follow accounts you love/who are positive.

What have you done to make to make your social media more self-accessible?

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The Ultimate Autumn Bucket List For All Ages

With the world feeling like it’s on fire right now, we don’t know what we can do. It feels like we’re going to be stuck without family. While that might be the case I think there are lots of fun things we can do to celebrate the season.

This is in the form of an Autumn bucket list.

You guys know how I love a good list! I decided to have a sit down and think of some things you could do. This could be at home or with your family out in the open. Don’t worry…I am still thinking of the Tier 3 people here in the UK!

Autumn Bucket ListPhoto by Cecile Vedemil on Unsplash

Carve a pumpkin

We have to attempt to carve a pumpkin this year! There are so many things you can make, especially if you’re creative/artistic. If you can’t carve one then you can do the next best thing: paint on it! You don’t have to be great at any of these.

As long as you have fun as you do it, then that’s all that matters.

Buy a new sweater

We’re moving into the cooler months so we say goodbye to heatwaves and hello to eternal rain. That’s what it feels like right now! Haha! Something that I love wearing is a nice comfy sweater.

You can get all snug with a turtle neck or a camel cable-knit. See? I know some terminology! Doesn’t Autumn automatically make you think of curling up in a sweater with a blanket and a good book? It does for me! I’m not sure which one I’ll buy this year but I’d love any opinions!

Create a Halloween playlist

Something that I’ve gotten into this year with Spotify is creating playlists.

I have way too many to my name! I have one for helping me sleep, one for my childhood, one for songs my parents introduced me to and more. I don’t actually have one for Halloween since I don’t really like scary things. I still like the idea of getting songs that make me think of this time of year.

It wouldn’t be an Autumn bucket list without something about music in it!

Make a closet costume

This concept was introduced to me by my cosplayer friends. You get given a character and create their costume using whatever clothes you have.

You’re obviously not going to make the perfect costume. That’s not the point. It’s just making a costume that feels right to you. You could choose to do a human Casper or Beetlejuice! It’s just something a little different and a fun game to do with friends.

Buy a candle

Candles have always been a big thing through the decades. They give us light and now have some amazing scents connected with the seasons. I’ve always wished that the UK had better selection of candles for Autumn, but they do exist. You just have to look around for them.

Yankee Candle have some gorgeous scents for this time of year: Pumpkin Patch, Spiced Orange and Autumn Glow. Not sponsored but wouldn’t mind being! *wink*

Decorate your home

What are bloggers particularly known for?

Decorating their homes for pictures, of course! Okay, so that’s kind of what the world thinks we do and they’re not entirely wrong. Most of us do love to decorate a room in our home. I’ve brought a little bit of Autumn into my bedroom through a soft yellow blanket and season-inspired cushions. I can’t get into putting fake leaf garland around the place, but I do love a little something!

Attend a Zoom Halloween party

Since we can’t attend any Halloween parties right now, we can do the next best thing!

Have one over the internet!!

You can still get dressed into a costume, have some drinks and chat with friends. Plus you can do it all from the comfort of your own home. No need to go out in the freezing cold!

Jump in a pile of leaves

Hey, I did say this was an Autumn bucket list for all ages! We all have that inner child that loves crunching leaves and, if you have enough, you can make a massive pile!

I’ve never jumped into a pile before but it sounds like so much fun! I’d probably be finding leaves in my hair for days though. The trials of having long, curly hair. Haha!

Eat a candy apple

First off…ew.

Second…I only say ew because I’ve yet to find a candy apple that was nice. There’s just something about having something extra sweet over an apple. They’re sweet enough, people! I blame the fact that I had braces when I was younger and broke a wire.

Anyone who has had a broken wire or bracket will know my pain.

This all said, I may try and make my own. I’m only doing it because of one of my favourite animes. 100 kudos points to anyone who recognises this anime!

Dress up your pet

Let’s see how many owners can do this! It doesn’t matter if you have a cat or a dog either. If they’re happy for you to dress them, then go for it! They are so many adorable outfits you can buy these days.

Turn your dog into a vampire or even transform your cat into a pumpkin. These are basically our furry children so we have to have fun once/twice a year.

What costumes has your pet worn through the years?

What is on your Autumn bucket list this year?

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Fandom Lifestyle

What’s On My Non-Spooky Watch List For Halloween?

Hi, I’m Daisy and I can’t watch horror films! Not only am I a coward but I just don’t like them. That said I still love Halloween. I can watching spooky things like Ghost Adventures or Buzzfeed Unsolved so I’m not a complete lost cause. I mean…I scare myself looking in the mirror every day.

If only that was a joke! Haha!

To get myself into the season of a new month, I’m sharing some of the TV shows/films that I’m planning on watching during October. So many new things to watch and fangirl over!

HalloweenPhoto by Neven Krcmarek on Unsplash

Netflix

The Addams Family

There have been so many versions of this awesome family! I’ve watched a teeny bit of the original, the musical and some of the new film. One of my favourites though has to be the 1991 film. It did freak me out as a kid because of the woman Debbie and her ending in a grave.

It’s definitely something I appreciate more now I’m older. I have a bit of a dark sense of humour (blame my parents and Jeff Dunham) so giggle at all the ‘wrong’ jokes. Wednesday is just an amazing character! That and Cousin Nit! It’s a staple for my Halloween viewing!

October Kiss

A free-spirited woman takes a temp job as a nanny to a workaholic widower. As Halloween approaches, she shows the family there’s a fun side to life.

I’m surprised that I haven’t watched this film yet since it came out in 2015. I usually jump on sweet, thought-provoking films like this. I guess I’ll just have to watch it this month! You can’t not watch a film called October Kiss in October.

This reminds me a little of Mrs Doubtfire meets Hook!

If there’s anything we need in 2020, it’s a film that makes you feel good.

The Corpse Bride

Erm…is this a bad time to admit that I’ve never watched The Corpse Bride? *hides*

I’ve heard a lot about it and know what everything looks like but I’ve never sat down and watched it. It sounds interesting and I love the style of the characters so I’ll let you guys know what I thought. After you’ve stopped silently judging me…

Hotel Transylvania 1, 2 & 3

Another kids film that I’m not ashamed to admit I enjoy watching!!

I first watched because Selena Gomez was voicing a character but then fell in love with the rest of the characters. It obviously has that silly humour kids all seem to love, but it does have some serious moments too. I missed out watching the last film so, with the weather being bad this week, I think I’m just going to sit down and watch all three.

The Worst Witch

Having grown up with the 90s version of the TV show and the books written by Jill Murphy, I had to give the recent CBBC series. It has Bella Ramsey playing Mildred so you know it’s going to be good! I’ll admit that it doesn’t have that sparkle the original had, but I still love the show!

Everyone is super cute and it really does bring back memories!

You can either watch the show on Netflix or on the CBBC iPlayer.

Chilling Adventures of Sabrina

Of course…you can’t have Halloween without this freaky retelling of Sabrina!!

It’s one of the best shows on Netflix and gets better every time I watch it. I didn’t think I would like because it was so much darker, but I did! Kiernan Shipka makes an incredible Sabrina and I can’t help but love the characters especially Theo (played by Lachlan Watson) and Aunt Hilda (Lucy Davies).

I haven’t watched the most recent season so I’ll be sitting in the darkness watching this!

Disney+

Coco

What I’m starting to realise in the process of writing this post is just how many things I love but haven’t watched. I swear I haven’t done it on purpose! Life has usually gotten in the way when they’ve come out and I’ve forgotten to watch. One of those films is Coco.

I know what it looks like and have heard a couple of the songs, but I don’t exactly know what it’s about. It looks like something about the Day of the Dead but I could be wrong. I think the timing of the film was just wrong for me since it was when Mum died.

Oh and check the interview with the amazing woman who inspired Mama!

Maleficent 1 & 2

I’ve not connected much with the films Angelina Jolie has performed in, but I did fall for how she brought Maleficent to life! It has all the magic, the darkness that transforms her and the re-awakening of her light because of Aurora! Elle Fanning makes the perfect Disney princess and I wish we could have more films in this universe!

I purposely made sure not to watch the sequel as I wanted to watch it during October. I’m always nervous of sequels because they’re not normally as good as the first. I’ve heard some great things about this though so we’ll see.

Zombies 1 & 2

Something that modern Disney is known for is their musical films, whether it’s High School Musical, The Descendants or more. Since it’ll soon be Halloween, I decided to share Zombies! Another film with a sequel I haven’t watched yet. I’ve seen the trailer and heard about it but all I know is that it has werewolves involved this time.

It’ll be cheesy and squeaky, but sometimes it’s good not to think too much when watching.

If you’ve watched it, let me know what you thought of it!

Gravity Falls

This series is on my list of Top 10 shows I’ve loved! I’ve watched lots of different animated shows throughout my life, but only a handful keep me interested. Gravity Falls is still brilliant even though it finished in 2016. I keep hoping they’ll bring it back!

The show follows twins Dipper and Mabel as they spend the summer with their great-uncle Grunkle Stan. Something they didn’t realise was all the mysterious and spooky things happened in Gravity Falls. Dipper finds a mysterious journal in the forest one day and starts to learn that the town was weirder than he first imagined.

I wish I could adopt Mabel! She’s so vibrant, fun and all so crazy!! She isn’t stupid though and is very close to her family!

Star Vs The Forces of Evil

If you wanted to know which show had the catchiest theme tune, it would be a tie between Gravity Falls and Star Vs The Forces of Evil! This show is just like the title suggests. It’s about a princess called Star who uses her magic to protect the world from the forces of evil.

However she isn’t the best at performing spells and tends to put herself into a lot of danger. Enter her best friend Marco! He is very safety-conscious and doesn’t like to take many risks! When he asked to look after Star when she transfers to his school, his world gets turned upside down!

Look, if you can be witches for Halloween, then you can also watch a magical princess from another dimension!

What are you planning on watching this Halloween?

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Lifestyle

40 Autumn Post Ideas For A Productive Blogtober

Today is October 1st and, for a few bloggers out there, that’s the start of Blogtober!

The last time I was able to successfully do a post through the month of October was back in 2015. Don’t think I’ll be able to do every day but I’m going to try and post more often. One of the struggles I had with this was coming up with post ideas.

We struggle at the best of times so I hope that these can make your Blogtober extra productive!

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Blogtober for nerdy/fandom bloggers

I had to start with some fun prompts for my fellow fandom bloggers!

Whether you chat about Disney, Harry Potter or other fandoms, let’s try to throw ideas at each other! We need all the help we can get for post ideas!

  1. Tips on how to deal with Disney Parks withdrawal
  2. What TV shows/films do you re-watch every year?
  3. A haul of autumn-related Disney products
  4. 5 fandom no-carving pumpkin items (break out the paints!)
  5. Do a Halloween decorate-with-me
  6. 4 Halloween costume and make-up ideas for kids and adults
  7. Gift Ideas for your nerdy friends
  8. What content do you watch to get you feeling seasonal (Youtube/TikTok)
  9. DIY craft ideas
  10. A Disney-inspired lookbook

Book bloggers

With the weather getting more unpredictable and the days drawing in, this time of year is made for the book bloggers! They can curl up somewhere comfy and read. Nothing else you’d rather do when it’s raining and dark! I know that I’ve already been searching around Pinterest for ideas!

  1. Books you’re looking forward to this autumn
  2. Chat about cosy places to read in your home
  3. Share your favourite spooky books that scare you
  4. Craft your favourite books onto pumpkins
  5. What did you managed to read this month?
  6. Have you got any tips for people who are in a reading slump?
  7. Tell us what music you like to listen while you read during the colder months
  8. Compare original book covers to newer covers for the same book
  9. Spell out your first name with books you love and tell us why you love
  10. What blogtober ideas would you give to book bloggers?

Lifestyle

One of the hardest tropes to do ideas for has to be lifestyle! Not hard as in not being able to come up with ideas but the opposite. There are so many things that you can write about and it’s trying to figure out which ones you want to do. I’m in the middle of both of these.

Somedays I can have no ideas whatsoever and others I get overwhelmed!

  1. Tell readers your reasons for loving/hating Autumn
  2. Do a home decor haul to make your home more seasonal
  3. Create some homemade recipes to warm you up
  4. Have you got autumnal candles that you love to burn?
  5. Create some fun ways to celebrate a social-distanced Halloween
  6. Write a bucket list for the upcoming month
  7. Chat about the scariest films you love
  8. Have you got any interesting childhood stories?
  9. Warm drinks that help you ignore rainy days
  10. Share any advice on dealing with seasonal depression

Travel

We might be stuck indoors more because of Covid-19, but I reckon we’ll still be able to come up with travel posts. We can either travel at a social distance or use our imagination! You would be surprised how often I visit other countries in my head.

I’m probably more in there than out of! Haha!

  1. A list of fun places you could visit for Halloween
  2. How would you travel on a badget?
  3. Discuss what you’re doing to stay safe while travelling
  4. What’s on your autumn travel bucket list
  5. Do you have a routine while travelling?
  6. Write about any childhood memories you have of travelling
  7. Who would be on your wishlist of famous people to travel with?
  8. What do you miss from home when you’re travelling?
  9. A list of things you don’t need but still end up packing
  10. If you could take part in any international autumn traditions, which ones would you choose and why?

Are you doing Blogtober this year? Have you got ideas you’d like to share?

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