Mental Health

What’s In My Grounding Box?

Having to deal with depression and anxiety daily for years, I’ve had time to try a bunch of different techniques to help me cope with the effects. Mindfulness, exercise, therapy and even podcasts. The problem is that they either don’t work or I’ve become almost desensitised to the benefits after a while. It’s that or I just have a really weird head that gets bored with things quickly.

To be honest, it’s probably the latter!

Since I’ve tried the more common ways, I tried to create my own way to ground myself. My depression and anxiety love to hit me at the same time. Much the same as a child’s Christmas Eve box of goodies, I have a box of personal things to help keep me calm.

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What is a Grounding Box?

A grounding box/a self-soothe box is a box of items that help calm and relax you when you’re panicking, stressed or in a low mood. It’s different to everyone that has one. What you might find calming might not work for anyone else. We’re just made that way!

It’s better to make this kind of box when your mood is positive. That way you’re able to think clearer and pick items that mean something to you.

Even though your box is unique, it’s important to include sensory items. They’re super helpful for grounding:

  • Sight
  • Smell
  • Touch
  • Sound
  • Taste

What’s in my Grounding Box?

The thing you’ve all been waiting for! The actual content of this blog post. I tend to waffle when I’ve done research into a subject. I wanted to make sure that I did this right. All of the items below might seem weird to you but they really help me.

Sight:

For the sight portion of my box, I have pictures of my parents. While thinking of them really hurts sometimes, it leads me to start thinking of my childhood does make me smile. It’s fun to think of all the stupid memories that are connected to the pictures.

I have their wedding photos (I was only a sparkle in their eye but I still remember what my mum told me), postcards with positive affirmations (my friend Lindsey gave me those), snaps of places I’ve visited (Northern Ireland, Birmingham, Los Angeles) and more.

I also have a cat book that talks about autism but is full of cat photos! My friend Kate got it for my birthday this year and it’s so cute!

Smell:

Smell is a big sense for me and I’m not talking about my massive nose! I’ve always been sensitive to different smells (both positive and negative). To help keep me relaxed, I have two scents connected to my parents. There’s Chanel No.5 for my mum and Brut for my dad. Whenever I smell these I just feel happy. My dad always bought Chanel for Mum as a gift and I continued to buy it after he passed away. Brut was my dad’s favourite aftershave and I would always smell this whenever he was getting ready to go out.

I have a small spray of each in the box for whenever I miss them. I even sprayed my memory teddy with Mum’s perfume for during the night,

Touch:

Another fun sense for me. I have a brain stress ball that Mum gave me years ago that I still squeeze to this day. My box also has a fidget cube that I love playing with, especially the button I can click and move around. Even though I can’t fit these next two items into my box, I still have them close by:

The weighted blanket was a birthday present to me. I’ve been wanting to own one of these for years but they were always super expensive. After seeing a friend chatting about hers on Twitter, I discovered this blanket that was so much cheaper! It’s a gorgeous pale pink and I’ve been lying with it over me during anxiety attacks. It feels great!

Sound:

I’m super sensitive to sound so have to be picky with what I choose for my box. Even as I type this post, I can hear my new neighbour’s booming voice. It’s grating on my nerves but I have my red blanket to play with. I have the Lord of the Rings soundtrack and Enya on my old iPod (yes, I still use mine! haha!) to listen to. There is something really soothing about these two soundtracks. Enya has an incredible voice and the Fellowship of the Rings/Chronicles of Narnia make me feel safe.

Not in my box but use it with my box: my spotify playlist called Music That Makes Me Feel Better. Basically a 12h list of songs that do just that! I can listen to it when I feel the start of anxiety or when I’m sleepy.

Taste:

The final sensory group in my box and the one I have to be a little careful with. Normally I could have a bar of my favourite chocolate in there or different snacks but these actually trigger me more. The life of having an eating disorder, I guess. Instead of snacks, I have relaxing teabags from Pukka and Heath & Heather! They make my favourite kinds of herbal tea and the tea also keeps me hydrated.

Normally I wouldn’t be too far in my head to grab water so tea does the trick.

What would be in your Grounding Box?

Grounding Box

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15 Comments

  • Reply
    Jenny in Neverland
    2nd March 2021 at 1:47 pm

    A grounding box is such a wonderful idea, Daisy! I can imagine a lot of people would find one very helpful in times of stress, anxiety or just feeling overwhelmed! I’d love to try a weighted blanket, I’ve heard great things about them!

    • Reply
      Daisy
      3rd March 2021 at 7:09 pm

      Oooo! You would love the weighted blanket! You can either get a cheaper one like mine or treat yourself to a more luxury one. As long as it makes you feel safe, that’s all that matters.

  • Reply
    Jodie | That Happy Reader
    2nd March 2021 at 2:35 pm

    This is such a great idea Daisy for those that experience anxiety! I love blankets with a soothing texture so I would choose my favourite for my box. Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply
      Daisy
      3rd March 2021 at 7:08 pm

      There’s just something so relaxing about soft blankets! Apparently I used to love them as a kid and it’s just carried into adulthood!

  • Reply
    Joleisa
    2nd March 2021 at 4:12 pm

    Thanks for sharing such a thoughtfully written post. It’s nice to read of certain things (like this) straight from the horse’s mouth.
    I personally found much food for thought here. All the very best.

    • Reply
      Daisy
      3rd March 2021 at 7:06 pm

      Thank you so much, Joleisa! I really appreciate that and I’m glad that you enjoyed the post!

  • Reply
    Lindsey
    3rd March 2021 at 5:54 pm

    Oooh I’d totally forgotten about those postcards! I love that you still have them and that they still help! I really love the idea of this whole premise, just having something safe you know you can go to in order to bring everything back under control. I’ll have to find you some more bits to send now! Lovely post.

    • Reply
      Daisy
      3rd March 2021 at 7:04 pm

      The postcards are great little helpers for bad days so thank you! I think you’d actually enjoy having a box like this. You could pop your favourite comfort book in it! Oooo…I’ll have to return the favour!

  • Reply
    Lucy
    3rd March 2021 at 6:33 pm

    A grounding box is such a good idea! What a great method to use when you need a little self soothing x

    Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk

    • Reply
      Daisy
      3rd March 2021 at 6:58 pm

      Definitely! I guess it can be seen as the grownup way to soothe. Kids have their blankies or dummies. We get to have a grounding box!

  • Reply
    Anika
    3rd March 2021 at 9:27 pm

    What an interesting concept! I haven’t heard of a grounding box before but I love the idea. Definitely something I could think about making for myself.

    Anika | chaptersofmay.com

  • Reply
    Della Driscoll
    3rd March 2021 at 11:13 pm

    I’ve never heard of this idea but I definitely think it’s something that’ll help me! Thank you for sharing this x

  • Reply
    Ruth| Ruthiee loves Glamour
    4th March 2021 at 12:30 am

    This is such a fab idea you know. I have never heard of a grounding box but it feels so good to know that you can actually create something that will serve as a go-to thing to help ease you of whatever you are going through and help calm you down. I really love the idea of a postcard and a fluffy blanket. You can never go wrong with them.

  • Reply
    Faye
    6th March 2021 at 11:59 am

    I love the sound of a Grounding Box! I’m also super sensitive to scent so I think that would be a key part of my own Grounding Box 🙂 x

    https://www.femaleoriginal.com

  • Reply
    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes
    17th March 2021 at 9:56 am

    Thanks for sharing, the idea of a grounding box, I think a blanket and a teddy bear would be in mine 🙂

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